Big Momma, was diagnosed with what was then called "senile." Back then, we didn’t have the same language around dementia that we do now. There were moments when she didn’t recognize me—her own granddaughter—and instead thought I was someone else entirely. She would tell me stories, sometimes about the people she had cared for over the years, and I could feel the weight of how dementia affected her, and in turn, us her family. Fast forward to COVID, and I found myself again in a caregiver role—this time for my in-laws. My father-in-law had vascular dementia, while my mother-in-law was in the middle stages of her own dementia journey. Trying to support them both, knowing their cognitive worlds were so different, was heartbreaking. There were days when I and my family had to juggle their vastly different needs, and watching them lose pieces of themselves was a profound challenge that I wasn’t sure we were prepared for. My father-in-law passed away 2-1/2 years ago, but I continue to care for my mother-in-law with the help of family and outside support. But through it all, I’ve learned how vital it is to treat them with dignity, love, and patience. No matter how much they change, they still need to feel like they matter, that they are loved, and that they are still a part of the family and yes, it can be frustrating.
One thing I’ve discovered is that you’re never truly alone in this journey. The Alzheimer’s Association has an incredible number of resources for families, caregivers, and those living with dementia. Their support made a world of difference in my caregiving experience, which is why I’ve decided to become a volunteer with them. Sharing my story and offering help to others who are walking this same path feels like the right way to give back. If you’re a caregiver, know that you don’t have to navigate this road alone. There is help, and there is hope.
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