Hello my friends,
As many of you know, I recently lost mymuch-loved mother to COVID-19. While mum was suffering from heartfailure and mixed dementia, it was the virus that took her life when she wasadmitted into the hospital after a fall that fractured her back.
One month after my mum’s death, I stillstruggle with my emotions regarding her passing. I was extremelyclose to my mother, talking to her every day and always spending time with herwhen possible. However, I have yet to breakdown and cry, which wasvery disturbing to me until my brother, acknowledging the same feelings, saidthat maybe we can’t breakdown because “the last two years took their toll onus”. It was at that moment that I realized that I had silently beenmourning my mum for the last two years – when the Dementia was at its worse andthere was very little resemblance of the mother I knew and loved so dearly.
My mum was a lively, bright, independent andenergetic woman with a wicked sense of humor. She was my rock and Irelied on her throughout my life. However, mum’s dementia robbed meof the last two years of her life. I was suddenly faced with astranger who was often combative, always anxious, and rarely remembered ourpast together. At times she would phone me to ask if Iknew where her children were, and other times I was faced with the terrible ordealof trying to calm her down over the phone, made more difficult because shelived in the UK.
Now I am faced with being robbedagain. David is struggling with middle stageAlzheimer’s. While some days are better than others, it has beenvery difficult to watch my husband change from a dynamic lawyer with a sharpmemory who was known in the legal field as the “energizer bunny,” into a manwho no longer hold meaningful conversations or follow simple tasks, and who’sonly goal now is to sit and watch television all day.
Alzheimer’s is so much more than the loss ofmemory. It is the loss of the person you knew andloved. It is the loss of the life you had with your loved oneknowing that there is never going to be those wonderful moments together again. Thisyear I am walking the Alzheimer’s Walk, in memory of my mother and in supportof my husband.
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Elite Grand Champion
Walk Committee Member