It has now been a little over a year since I placed Bob in memory care at Atria Park in Glen Ellyn. At first it was relief from total exhaustion of caring for him. Then it was joy and relief that Bob was able to travel with a caregiver to North Carolina for Bobby and Ashley’s wedding. Then our new normal set in, living by myself,frequent visits with Bob and good times when we were able to have him join us outside of Atria for family events. I was so glad to have him come home for Christmas, but it was devastating to see that he didn’t recognize our home at all. I pray and thank God every night for being able to have the kids and grandchildren nearby, as they are my life line. I am appreciative of support from most family and friends as well have been surprised by support from unexpected people in my life.
Fast forward to March 2020. I was able to get to Chicago from Florida in time for a visit before Atria locked down just 4 hours later. Since then it has been really hard. It is hard on everyone I know, but I hate that Bob is so separated from us. We have done window visits and now courtyard visits but I see him losing the little connection he had left with us. How the heck is he suppose to know us behind masks??? I don’t know if he knows any one us consistently now, but he will still call me ‘His Wife” occasionally. Other times he asks me if I know where his wife is. I see the most reaction from him with the grandchildren, who bring out the regressed childlike personality in Bob. They are so good with him! He even got to meet his new grandson, kept saying “It’s a baby, it’s a baby! He can’t carry on a conversation, just asks for Tootsie Rolls and alligators! I feel like he knows he is with people that love him/care about him, but actually knowing us...I think NOT.
I hate that this disease has taken my husband, my best friend, my companion, my life partner away from me and changed our lives forever. I that this Pandemic is stealing limited precious time that we have with Bob when he would still be able to do things outside of memory care and be with his family. Our family does know he is well cared for and are so happy with our choice of Atria. However I didn’t think it could get worse than Bob having Alzheimer’s but it has and it sucks!
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